Explanation & Summary (Full “Love Seat”)
Loveseat (full version) is…
A Guided Conversation for potentially sensitive conversations. This is basically a one-way process for one person's issue. Guide notes and tips are included throughout the document. As you get more familiar with this, you could skip this information.
Overarching view:
a) This is designed to work through one person's hurt, issue, disappointment, etc. Of course, as you listen to your partner, your own hurt or disappointments might be triggered. Please put these on a "Request List" and come back to it during another Loveseat.
b) The scripts below are best read word for word (especially at first) unless you feel otherwise inspired (which you very well may).
c) There is a summary outline below. Once you have a feel for the process you could use the outline- although, if your issue is delicate, volatile, or at a "crisis" level, you may want to stick with the script.
Credits - Loveseat was inspired by Dr. Harville Hendrix, Dr. John Gray, therapists Emil Harker and Tony Overbay, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. John Lund.
Summary Outline of Full Love Seat (for Experts)
Preparation
Enrollment
Ownership & Headline with Empathy
Switching Shoes
Partner A shares / Partner B listens & Validates
Bottom Line Fears / Concerns
Accounting Pool
Identify your collusion