Instructions

How to do Part 1 (Chit-Chat)

a) Spouse 1 (either one of you) ****asks a "Chit-Chat" question i.e. “So what was the best part of your day?” (See other questions below.)

b) Spouse 2 answers.

c) Spouse 1 offers some validation i.e. “Wow, that’s cool!” or "Interesting!”, or “Tell me more about _______ etc.

d) Spouse 1 then shares on the same subject i.e. “The best part of my day was ______”) or Spouse 2, asks the same question i.e. "What was the best part of your day." (Either way is great.)

e) Spouse 1 or 2 asks another question, or shares an answer to another question i.e. “What did you learn today” or “What I learned today was________. How about you- what did you learn?” etc.

• Important Notes on Part 1 (click on the triangle to the left)

How to do Part 2 (Requests)

Each night, each of you could choose between a. b. or c. below:

a) I don’t have any requests tonight.

b) I have a request I’d like to make of myself, or

c) *(after your Relationship Cleanse) *"I have a request I'd like to make. Would that be O.K.?"

• Important Notes on Part 2 (click on the triangle to the left)

Part 1) Chit Chat

*Note: If you are doing a relationship cleanse steer clear of all issues, implications, disappointments, grievances etc. We’ll get to that in our meetings and after your cleanse. Some of these question are obviously potentially loaded. Do your best to turn them into honest conversations about your inner world and away from your relationship.

Note: If you'd like, you can say "pass" on a question or "Would you ask me another one?"*

1. What was the best part of the day? or

2. What went well for you today (what worked for you) - how and/or why? or