If you’re feeling warm and wonderful already, talking about whatever is on your mind (other than your relationship) could be better than following the recording. You decide.
Keep in mind however that answers and shares using the recording can be a helpful way of getting to know each other in ways that regular chit-chat sometimes doesn't lead to.
1) Validate and show interest in your spouse’s share i.e*. “Wow, that’s cool!”* or "Interesting!”, or “What was that like?” or “Tell me more about _______ ", etc.
…including some that aren’t in the recording), for when you don’t want the recording. **
Note: The person receiving the question can always say, "Would you ask me another one? (not that one)?”
11) What was the best part of the day?
12) What did you learn today? ...or, did you have any breakthroughs?
13) What is something you are proud of, with yourself, with me, or with one of our kids (and why)?
14) What’s something you’re grateful for, appreciate, or like about me, yourself, or anything?
15) How did something turn out to be different than you thought?
16) What’s one of your favorite things?
17) Who inspired you today, and how? (or who did you inspire and how)Deeper (For use when trust is high and things are going well)
18) What’s one hard thing you’ve done lately, and you’re glad you did it?
19) How did you choose love today and what did you learn from this? (service, giving your full attention, complimenting someone, etc.)
20) How did you choose fear today (competition, overwhelm, pride, rightness, scarcity, apathy, defensiveness, avoidance, etc.) and what did you learn from this?