Relevant Document
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Other documents that probably already exist somewhere in Notion
The Perfect Storm (a Stairway to Heaven).docx
Close the Back Door - Main Resource.docx
A Stairway to Heaven
Introduction: A singular, disturbing possibility
Hugh Prather once said that, “Every married person wakes up one morning, and looking over a bowl of cold cereal, finds himself face to face with a perfect stranger, and one that he or she doesn’t particularly like.”
This is the moment that Lloyd Jenkins (speaking of newlyweds) describes as "running around shouting that we’ve been robbed."
But as Joseph Campbell puts it, this (the cave we fear to enter) is the cave that holds the treasure we seek.
For as Prather goes on to say, "It is at this moment (the moment at the breakfast table), if we are willing, that we can begin to experience true love."
Dr. Harville Hendrix (Imago Therapy) goes even further by saying that "Incompatibility is the basis for a great marriage."
Yet, as Lloyd Jenkins said, it's our nature to feel like we've been robbed. In reality, this never happens. In reality, you can't marry the wrong person. In reality, you are right where you belong. How do I know? Because you want to run.
Note that I'm not talking about relationships where there is physical violence, adultery, or chronic toxic emotional abuse. I'm talking about feeling like you've been dealt a bad hand. I'm inviting you to challenge yourself on this.
Here's how Hartman Taylor puts it: “I have never, ever, ever, worked with a couple who didn’t deserve each other." - Dr. Hartman Taylor - Author of "The Color Code"